End the Cycle of Negative Thoughts, Chronic Dissatisfaction and Relationship Drama

I’m going to tell you something radical.

Something you won’t believe at first, but if you embrace it, will be the single most important event in your life.

I can say this with complete confidence, because when I had this realization, everything in my life changed.

I met Katie, the love of my life and the source of endless joy, passion and wonder every day.

I lost 100 pounds, and kept it off for more than 40 years. (In fact, I’m healthier now than I was at age 25!)

I became a best selling author, got invited to appear on more than 100 news programs, and even appeared on Oprah… twice.

It was the catalyst that has fueled my entire personal, professional, and physical being.

And until I learned it, it was the hidden cause of most of my relationship discontent, weight issues and general sense of fear and loneliness.

What is this magical power move that changed it all for me?

I learned to love myself.

When We Don’t Love Ourselves, We Can’t Be Loved By Someone Else

When we don’t love and accept ourselves fully, we can’t ever have a great relationship or a happy life.

Our partner may whisper, “I love you so much” and we won’t believe them. We’ll always be looking for evidence that they are secretly losing interest.

Did they call us when they said they would? (If they didn’t, it’s because they don’t love us.)

Did they initiate sex, or cuddle like they used to, or hold our hands when we walked down the street? (They are losing interest. They’ve met someone else. I’m less desirable than I was ten years ago.)

We can’t tell them our secret feelings or fears, because it will push them away.

We feel like we “aren’t good enough” to date our crush, or we settle for someone who is “safe” or “fine” but who doesn’t make our heart leap with joy.

We don’t trust our partners (they aren’t telling the truth). We think they are cheating (where was she last night?)

We carry around the pain of never feeling good enough to have the kind of love other people experience. We doubt ourselves; we doubt our partners; we doubt love.

We let challenges demoralize and deflate us, and it’s not long before we realize we’re a much smaller version of ourselves. We won’t ask for a raise; we’ll stay in dead-end jobs.

We’ll lose weight and feel fatter than ever. We give up on our health, thinking it’s too hard or takes too much effort.

We’ll look for quick fixes to make ourselves feel better: a new haircut, a one night stand, a bottle of bourbon, a brownie sundae.

But none of these fixes fix us at all. They leave us feeling lonelier, emptier, sadder.

And we will remain that way until we stop looking for other people to give us the love and care we yearn for and deserve.

After all, why would someone else love us, if we don’t think we are worthy?

A Controversial Hit From A Life-Altering Breakthrough

When I had my personal epiphany, everything changed. This breakthrough set the trajectory for the rest of my life, and it became my personal and professional mission to facilitate the breakthrough in others.

In my first blissful summer with Katie, I was compelled to write the first edition of my book, Learning to Love Yourself.

I was wildly in love, and more certain than ever that the act of loving myself brought me the wondrous gift of the woman of my dreams.

The first edition of this book was published in the 1980s and became a blockbuster best-seller. It was highly controversial, too. Self-help books were rare at the time, and the way I presented the information to the reader really shook up some experts in the field of psychology and psychotherapy. (In fact, Psychology Today trashed it completely, instantly propelling it to the best-seller list!)

Since its original publication, I’ve revised the book several times. I’ve used the concepts in the book to help tens of thousands of individuals overcome lifelong emotional obstacles to intimacy and personal contentment. I’ve seen relationships transformed and lives changed for the better because of the very simple, but very powerful Love Yourself techniques I developed so many years ago.

It was such a huge hit, that I wrote a second book a decade later to help provide valuable “how-to” exercises and step-by-step habits to fully integrate the practice of loving yourself into your core being. The Learning to Love Yourself Workbook went on to become a separate success in its own right and a movement was born.

Based on my 40 years as a psychologist, and having worked with every mental and emotional difficulty in the book, I can tell you that learning to love yourself is the most powerful therapeutic technique I know of.

In fact, it is a single key state of mind from which mental, emotional, and even physical health flows.

Now I’m offering the latest, most up-to-date edition of the Learning to Love Yourself concepts in eBook format, as a special bundle.

It will help you transform ALL your relationships, no matter how difficult they are now, to be more open, loving, intimate and honest.

The transformation can be immediate, and can last a lifetime!

You will go from feeling criticized to feeling accepted and loved, even if the other person in your life does NOTHING AT ALL to change their behavior.

It will stop the cycle of the negative thoughts, arguments and worries, so you can feel at peace and enjoy open, genuine relationships free of drama and tension.

In The “Learning To Love Yourself Special Bundle“ You’ll Learn:

• How to identify the various points in your past where you learned that you were unlovable, and how to reverse the damage caused by both intentional or unintentional childhood trauma
• The underlying cause of “people pleasing” and how to reprogram your thoughts so you’re not automatically serving others’ needs at the expense of your own peace and wellbeing
• 10 powerful “attitudes” that have the power to set you free from prior negative conditioning
• How to make loving yourself completely effortless, no matter what you’re experiencing or feeling (even if it’s guilt, shame or self-hatred).
• Why blaming others when things go wrong can actually stunt any good regard you have for yourself, and how to get out of the cycle of blame and helplessness for good
• Why we often put up barriers to feeling good, and how to allow yourself to experience bliss without guilt or constraint (If you feel you don’t have a right to be happy, this is for you)
• Two common mistakes you may be making when trying to improve your self-esteem, and how shifting your belief can instantly elevate your mood
• The 4-step process you can do in less than 10 minutes that will allow you to flow in harmony with the stream of life, instead of feeling tension, resistance and anxiety
• The truth about guilt, and how to dissolve this debilitating emotion that stifles your creativity and your ability to express joy
• Why anger is the most repetitive emotion and how to turn anger into positive energy for change
• The secret psychological reason you’re attracted to certain partners – and how knowing this can transform a “problem” relationship into an opportunity for true personal growth
• The 4 questions that can change everything in your relationship, especially when trouble arises
• Why forgiveness is often difficult and what you need to do FIRST for yourself before you can genuinely forgive another

There Is a Cure for What Ails You in Life and Love, And It’s Been Within You All Along

Throughout the years, I’ve met many smart and wonderful people who have told me that they think something is wrong with them, because they can never feel truly happy and at peace in life and love.

I’ve seen people like this go to the ends of the earth and to endless specialists seeking a cure for that gnawing emptiness inside.

They build dream houses, they go on cruises, they consult psychics, and they join crusades. They hop from relationship to relationship, looking for the perfect partner but never being able to find satisfaction in love.

None of the striving and struggle works to fill the emptiness, because that space cannot be filled by acquiring wealth, buying an object or getting someone to love us.

Believe it or not, we won’t ever learn to love ourselves by hearing someone tell us, “I adore you,” “You’re the one for me” or praise our good qualities to the heavens.

That space, that well of dissatisfaction, can’t be filled with a promotion, raise, or an award recognizing your achievement or hard work.

That space that gnaws at you can only be filled by one thing – learning to love yourself.

I sincerely hope that you take a moment today to love yourself by committing to the transformation that’s possible with this program.

I know it will be a turning point in your life, as it was in mine.

With love,